LANDMINES IN RESOLVING CONFLICT

Neal Pollard "I." The late Wendell Winkler once said that beneath most marital conflict is basic selfishness. "What about my needs?" "What have you done for me?" "I am not happy, fulfilled, etc."  The Bible warns of the destructive nature of selfishness (Luke 9:23; Eph. 4:22,24; Phil. 2:3; 2 Tim. 3:2)! One of the most … Continue reading LANDMINES IN RESOLVING CONFLICT

Recognizing And Resolving Ineffective Problem-Solving

Neal Pollard FIGHT…WOUND…WITHDRAW…REPENT…REPEAT. That has never worked, but it’s the way many people approach problems in marriage. And, it’s not only newlyweds. Some people live out a lifetime of handling conflict this way. The sad and dangerous thing is that such a methods of dealing with disagreements can destroy a marriage. The point of contention … Continue reading Recognizing And Resolving Ineffective Problem-Solving

How To Improve Your Love Life

Neal Pollard Even when provoked, endure without complaining. Give your spouse a gift (not necessarily monetary) as an act of kindness. Avoid intensely negative feelings toward your spouse’s success and jealousy over them. Avoid an exaggerated conception of yourself or an inflated ego. Avoid behaving in a way that shames, disgraces, or embarrasses your mate. … Continue reading How To Improve Your Love Life

One Of The Hardest Biblical Positions To State

Neal Pollard There are few statements or pronouncements that are clearer than Jesus’ words in Matthew 19:9, yet perhaps none, in our current culture, is more intimidating to state. Jesus contrasts His will on marriage, divorce, and remarriage with the already existent stance of the Law of Moses. He says, “Because of your hardness of … Continue reading One Of The Hardest Biblical Positions To State

A Lot Happens In 25 Years!

Neal Pollard Today is Kathy’s and my Silver Anniversary. The day we got married, the president was the first George Bush. Johnny Carson was hosting the Tonight Show (his final show was on our wedding night). Gas was barely over a dollar per gallon. We lived in a sleepy, west Alabama town (the thought of … Continue reading A Lot Happens In 25 Years!

“Just Divorced”

Neal Pollard My sweet daughter-in-law, Chelsea, was incensed about how cavalier a “California-based” couple were about their divorce. She sent me the link to the article and it’s hard to believe this is not “fake news” or an April Fool’s joke written on a December day. The BuzzFeed News article, written by Remy Smidt and … Continue reading “Just Divorced”

Daniel And Susan Bakeman

Neal Pollard In the annals of American history there is a remarkable story you may not know.  Daniel Bakeman was born on October 9, 1759.  He married Susan Brewer on August 29, 1772, though not yet a teenager.  Soon thereafter, he joined the American army during the Revolutionary War.  Not only did he survive the … Continue reading Daniel And Susan Bakeman

Twenty-Four Blessings Of Being Married To A Godly Spouse

Neal Pollard My dad performed the wedding ceremony for Kathy and me at the Manchester church of Christ in Georgia on May 22, 1992, which, as I’ve been reminded, was also the last show for Johnny Carson on The Tonight Show. It was also the day Bosnia and Herzegovina, Croatia and Slovenia joined the United … Continue reading Twenty-Four Blessings Of Being Married To A Godly Spouse

THE PATTERN FOR MARRIAGE

Neal Pollard Matthew 19:1-12 records an incident where, because the Pharisees are trying to test Jesus (vs. 3), He has occasion to reveal His will about marriage.  As we analyze this text, we find several notable facts about marriage. These verses show us the mind and will of God on an institution that is increasingly … Continue reading THE PATTERN FOR MARRIAGE

Dangerous Clothing!

Neal Pollard Have you ever heard of clothing that puts you in the hospital?  A 35-year-old woman in Adelaide, Australia, had to be treated at the Royal Adelaide Hospital for loss of circulation.  She was on an IV for four days! Why? The official report used scary words like “hypoattenuation,” “oedema of muscles,” and “myonecrosis.”  … Continue reading Dangerous Clothing!