Showing Love To Your Mate In Ways That Count

Neal Pollard 1--Do Something That Is Truly Meaningful To Them (Acts Of Service)(Phil. 2:3-4) 2--Say Something That Is Essential To Them (Cf. Col. 4:6) 3--Pray Something That Is Helpful To Them (When You're Close Or Not, It Will Benefit You Both)(1 Pet. 3:7) 4--Lift Something That Is Too Heavy For Them (Your Thoughtful Compassion Will … Continue reading Showing Love To Your Mate In Ways That Count

Observations From Perhaps The Most Difficult Passage In The New Testament

Neal Pollard What is perhaps the most difficult statement in the Bible is not grammatically complex or difficult to comprehend from an intellectual standpoint. But what elder, preacher, or other member has not agonized over it many times. Asked point blank for His teaching on the subject of marriage, divorce, and remarriage, Jesus says, "Because … Continue reading Observations From Perhaps The Most Difficult Passage In The New Testament

LANDMINES IN RESOLVING CONFLICT

Neal Pollard "I." The late Wendell Winkler once said that beneath most marital conflict is basic selfishness. "What about my needs?" "What have you done for me?" "I am not happy, fulfilled, etc."  The Bible warns of the destructive nature of selfishness (Luke 9:23; Eph. 4:22,24; Phil. 2:3; 2 Tim. 3:2)! One of the most … Continue reading LANDMINES IN RESOLVING CONFLICT

Recognizing And Resolving Ineffective Problem-Solving

Neal Pollard FIGHT…WOUND…WITHDRAW…REPENT…REPEAT. That has never worked, but it’s the way many people approach problems in marriage. And, it’s not only newlyweds. Some people live out a lifetime of handling conflict this way. The sad and dangerous thing is that such a methods of dealing with disagreements can destroy a marriage. The point of contention … Continue reading Recognizing And Resolving Ineffective Problem-Solving

How To Improve Your Love Life

Neal Pollard Even when provoked, endure without complaining. Give your spouse a gift (not necessarily monetary) as an act of kindness. Avoid intensely negative feelings toward your spouse’s success and jealousy over them. Avoid an exaggerated conception of yourself or an inflated ego. Avoid behaving in a way that shames, disgraces, or embarrasses your mate. … Continue reading How To Improve Your Love Life

One Of The Hardest Biblical Positions To State

Neal Pollard There are few statements or pronouncements that are clearer than Jesus’ words in Matthew 19:9, yet perhaps none, in our current culture, is more intimidating to state. Jesus contrasts His will on marriage, divorce, and remarriage with the already existent stance of the Law of Moses. He says, “Because of your hardness of … Continue reading One Of The Hardest Biblical Positions To State

A Lot Happens In 25 Years!

Neal Pollard Today is Kathy’s and my Silver Anniversary. The day we got married, the president was the first George Bush. Johnny Carson was hosting the Tonight Show (his final show was on our wedding night). Gas was barely over a dollar per gallon. We lived in a sleepy, west Alabama town (the thought of … Continue reading A Lot Happens In 25 Years!

STUBBORN TRUTHS

Neal Pollard —And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery (Mat. 19:9). —Repent, and each of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins; and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit (Acts 2:38). —For this … Continue reading STUBBORN TRUTHS

“Just Divorced”

Neal Pollard My sweet daughter-in-law, Chelsea, was incensed about how cavalier a “California-based” couple were about their divorce. She sent me the link to the article and it’s hard to believe this is not “fake news” or an April Fool’s joke written on a December day. The BuzzFeed News article, written by Remy Smidt and … Continue reading “Just Divorced”

The Holiday Blues

Neal Pollard It is amazing how many people lose loved ones around the holidays. If you consider that there are about six weeks between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day, you realize the statistical probability. But, for one who loses a mate, child, or parent, the situation is not remotely clinical. It is deeply personal. It … Continue reading The Holiday Blues