“Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.” Almost every word in this practical passage can provide even more helpful insight— so let’s dissect some of them!
Refrain:
“sink down, to let drop, to abandon, to be quiet”
These are the steps that must be taken in order to avoid the damage that is certain to follow if ignored.
Anger:
“to blow through the nostrils”
This is the kind of anger that dulls the sensible mind. The choices (words/actions) made under the influence of anger are the just the beginning of coming destruction.
And:
There’s anger and there’s wrath. Anger can easily bring forth wrath. The command is to avoid that which makes you flare the nostrils as the natural progression of anger is escalation, referred to as wrath.
Forsake:
“to let loose, leave behind”
Drop it. Let it go. Do what needs to be done so that the command to “forsake” can be carried out. Leave, breathe, pray, reevaluate. Do it quickly and do it each time so that it becomes instinctual.
Wrath:
“hot displeasure, heat, rage, poison (as that which burns the bowels)”
The Absolutes of Wrath
Our wrath gets us in trouble when we think we are the owners of it (1 Sam. 28:18)
The answer to wrath is humility (2 Chron. 12.7).
Our wrath is based in ignorance (2 Chron. 34.21).
If you’re consumed by your own wrath, you’ll be eaten alive twice (Ps. 21.9).
Eaten by your own &
Consumed by God’s
Fret not:
“to kindle, heat oneself in vexation, to begin burning, to grow warmer”
Tends only:
“a one way path, the most likely outcome”
The phrase “tends only” shows up in Judges 16 where Samson asks God to grant him one final request. This helps us see how the word can mean a “one way path.”
“Then Samson called to the LORD and said, “O Lord GOD, please remember me and please strengthen me only this once, O God, that I may be avenged on the Philistines for my two eyes.” – Judges 16:28
Psalm 37.8 is telling us that human wrath is a path that can only lead to one end— evil.
Evil doing:
“shattered, broken in pieces”
Old Hebrew is a pictorial language and looking into a biblical word can really make a passage come to life. It doesn’t take any stretching of the imagination to see how “shattered” and “broken” so accurately describes the end result of “evil doing.” Evil is that which breaks and destroys our lives and the lives of others. The consequences are devastating but thankfully God is our guide to godliness.
David says, about 1,000 years earlier, the same thing Paul says. They had the same source, of course–the Holy Spirit breathed out the words through them both. In Psalm 4:4, David wrote, “Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah.” Paul wrote, “Be angry, and do not sin. Do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil” (Eph. 4:26-27). A Bible with good footnotes and referencing will show you that Paul is quoting David, applying the scripture to the purpose of his own writing. So, each wrote for a different purpose, David to demonstrate who is the blessed man and Paul to show who is the new man. David’s writing is of the poetic genre. Paul’s writing is epistolary. Each wrote under a different covenant, meaning their priesthood, worship, and religious constituency were all different. Yet, for all the contrasts that can be made, there are three distinct similarities in these passages beyond the phrase that it is the same.
These writers show us that anger is a timeless issue. When Israel was autonomous or under the thumb of a world power, they were subject to feelings of anger. When Moses was the lawgiver and when Christ was, the issue confronted them. Time, geography, status, or race have nothing to do with a passion that can be stirred to anger. Wherever man wrestles himself and has to contend with others, it is an issue.
These writers show us that anger can be sinful. Though each covenant had different laws to respond to sinful anger, the very existence of such rules and commands shows man’s aptitude to let his anger get away from him. The ramifications of not reigning in self’s response to anger are ultimately the same, whenever and wherever one lives.
These writers show us how to avoid sinful anger. The meat of both passages is a divine strategy to stave off the inclination to sin in our anger. David’s suggests two things–meditation and stillness. Spend some time internally sifting through the issues that would provoke you. Don’t simply stew on it. Rationally think out the matter. Then, be still. Be careful about what course of action you take. Don’t be rash and hasty. Paul suggests resolution and self-mastery. He counsels against “stewing on it,” too. Don’t let anger fester like a sore. Regroup then confront the problem, and remember that this is not the same as being confrontational. You are confronting self more than the cause of the anger. Then, keep self protected from submitting to the devil. That may seem like a dramatic way to say it, but Paul is saying that you are giving yourself over to devilishness when you allow your anger to cross the line into sinfulness. What a hard pill to swallow, yet how helpful to understand that before we foolishly react.
God is looking out for us, seeking to save us from our worst enemy in anger–ourselves!
Hans Bitmez, a 53-year-old member of Turkey’s Islamist Saadet Partisi, recently demonstrated situational irony. Situational irony occurs when a significant difference exists between the expected outcome and the actual unfolding of events. Bitmez delivered a passionate and intense 20-minute rant against Israel, culminating in a poem warning of impending divine retribution. After Bitmez spoke those words, he collapsed from a heart attack. He would die shortly after being taken to the hospital.
While this situation may appear ironic, my intention is not to imply that it is divine retribution against a man who has expressed strong opposition to Israel. Within generic Christendom, a group of people believe that the modern nation-state of Israel, established in 1948, is the same as the ancient Israel mentioned in the Old and New Testaments. As a result, they invoke the Abrahamic covenant, which states that God blesses those who bless Abraham’s descendants.
As a result, many people who identify as Christians believe that their country should currently assist the state of Israel. In light of the establishment of the New Testament, I would like to draw their attention to the apostle Paul’s teachings in Galatians 4 regarding the identity of God’s people today. The existence of the New Covenant, according to the author of Hebrews, implies that the Old Covenant is no longer valid (Hebrews 8.13). So, while we, as Christians of American earthy citizenship, may support Israel as a democratic nation and ally in a troubled region of the world, we are not obligated to them because of our faith in the Lord.
To clarify, I’d like to go over why I chose Hans Bitmez as an illustrative example to examine. Hans Bitmez personifies the reasoning behind the Bible’s proscription against anger. God consistently prioritizes our best interests. God, as our creator, understands the adverse effects of anger on our health. Anger can cause hypertension, depression, anxiety, sleep disturbances, substance abuse, gastric ulcers, gastrointestinal disorders, and diabetes. Concerning the causes of these conditions, one must consider the physiological changes that anger can cause, such as increased energy levels, elevated blood pressure, a surge in hormones such as adrenaline and noradrenaline, increased body temperature, and heightened muscle tension.
God warned Cain about anger in this manner: “Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it.” (Genesis 4.6-7 NASB 1995). God personified anger in human form. Sin lurked, poised to ambush anyone who stepped out the door. Anger seeks to dominate us, but we must exert authority over it.
However, it is important to note that God told Cain that his anger showed itself on his face. His demeanor had shifted. Some people may be surprised that others can detect their emotions through subtle cues such as a piercing gaze or a slight lip curl. Our feelings, however, manifest themselves even when we do not express them verbally. Elevated vocal tones, tightened fists, furrowed brows or scowls, a tightly clenched jaw, physical trembling, accelerated heart rate, excessive sweating, and excessive pacing are all signs of anger.
Most importantly, God understood that sin begins in the heart. He wanted Cain to be aware of his rage so he would not sin. Unfortunately, Cain ignores God’s warning and becomes an example for us. Cain demonstrates how anger leads to poor decision-making. Cain’s keen hatred for Abel, which stems from jealousy and resentment, clouds his judgment. This result exemplifies how anger can lead to rash and harmful decisions.
However, violent outbursts followed the unbridled fury. As the story progresses, Cain’s anger builds to a dangerous climax, and he commits the first murder in Biblical history. The fact that this could happen shows how fury can cause drastic, permanent changes. As a result, anger has adverse effects. After murdering Abel, Cain is subject to divine punishment, which includes being marked and banished. This scene from the story shows how damaging it is to let one’s anger fester uncontrollably.
We, too, would do well to listen to Jesus as He chastised the Pharisees for elevating their traditions over God’s word. Jesus says that not what a man ingests defiles him, but rather what comes out of his heart (Matthew 15.18–20). If you note, murder is one of those things Jesus says begins first in the heart. The heart, of course, refers to the seat of all our emotions, like anger.
To conclude, the Hans Bitmez story is a moving reminder of the profound wisdom in biblical teachings about anger and its effects. While not a direct act of divine retribution, his unfortunate demise following a vehement outburst against Israel highlights the physical and spiritual dangers of uncontrolled anger. This incident is reminiscent of the Biblical story of Cain and Abel, in which unchecked rage resulted in tragic outcomes. It is a modern-day parallel that demonstrates the timeless relevance of Biblical principles. As Christians, Jesus calls us to exercise restraint and wisdom, understanding that our emotions, particularly anger, have the potential to lead us off the path of God. This story encourages us to heed the Biblical warning to master our anger, or it will master us. By doing so, we align ourselves with good health practices and a spiritual ethos that promotes peace, self-control, and the well-being of our souls.
When it comes to that angry friend, it doesn’t take 1,000 of them to affect you. It only takes one.
That one friend that has those anger issues can rub off on you. Their mindset, their reactions, and their sin will all rub off on you and you will learn their ways. The word “learn” is the idea of teach. This friend will teach you his ways and you will become his student. There was a study done on the influence of domestic violence and what it can do to not just the spouse, but to the children.
The study went on to reveal that almost 70 percent of kids that grew up watching their father beat their mother ended up being abusive to their spouse later on in life.
We don’t always realize that we are being taught. We don’t recognize that we are a student to something that we never wanted to claim as our teacher. We must be careful of our friendship with this dangerous man, or this concern will become a reality, and we will imitate his actions and ways.
Proverbs 22:25 says, “…Or you will learn his ways And find a snare for yourself.” If you reject the command and ignore the concern mentioned in the previous verses, you will have to face the consequence. You will find yourself ensnared in anger. Genesis four shows us the consequence of anger. In verses 1-8, we are introduced to Cain and Abel. In this account we read that the anger of Cain caused his face to literally distort. This anger drove Cain to murder his brother. Now there have been times in the past that I’ve been mad at my brothers, but never angry enough to kill them. Cain’s anger had driven him to the point of murder. As a result, verses 10-14 show us that Cain’s life would never be the same again. Unchecked anger will ruin our lives, but more than that unchecked anger will ruin our soul.
The Better Health Channel did a study on the physical effects of uncontrolled anger which include:
Increased Anxiety
High blood pressure
Headache
Digestion problems, such as abdominal pain
Insomnia
Depression
Skin problems, such as eczema
Heart attack
Stroke
The Bible has done a study on the spiritual effect of anger, and side effects include
Murder
Eternal Punishment
And the loss of your Soul
The underground trains at airports and subways will run over and over all day. When many of them reach the end of the line you hear a voice that tells you it’s the last stop. Then the train starts all the way back over and does it again. With anger there is no starting over. The things you say and the things you do cannot be erased. Proverbs 28:13 tells us that the fool lets loose his anger causing irrepairable issues. Benjamin Franklin once said, “Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.” Eskimo wolf hunters use a special technique to kill wolves. First, they coat a knife blade with animal blood and allow it to freeze. Then they stick the knife in the ground with the blade facing up. When a wolf smells the blood it comes over and begins to lick the blade with the frozen blood. The wolf continues to feverishly lick the blade faster and faster until just the bare blade of the knife is showing. The craving for blood is so strong that the wolf doesn’t even realize that his desire is being quenched by its own warm blood. The wolf is found in the morning next to the knife having killed himself because of his lack of self control. If we aren’t careful, the anger of our friend will become our own, and in the end it will cause the loss of our salvation.
Anger can affect so many areas of our lives. We can be angry at ourselves, we can be angry at others, we can even be angry at God. And this holds us back from our salvation.
If we are angry at ourselves for a past sin, the circumstances we were raised in, or the quality of our lives because of our own past decisions – this can hold us back from salvation.
If we are angry at others, a brother or sister at church, our parents or our friends – this can also hold us back from salvation.
If you’re angry at God, realize that He is the only One that can give you peace and cure you of that spiritual disease.
Don’t focus on the anger in your life, but on the love in Christ. The Love shown as men spit in His face. The Love shown as he was mocked. The Love as He was tied to a post, as He was scourged, as He carried His cross through the street. The Love shown as men drove nails through His hands. As they shoved the crown of thorns on His head…all of this and still He could look up at the Father and say, “Forgive them, they know not what they do.” If anyone had the right to feel anger – it was Him. The Son of God did not go through all of that so anger could eat us up.
Don’t let anger keep you from the peace and love that Christ has to offer. And don’t let anger strip you of experiencing eternal life with Him.
Balance is frustratingly difficult to pinpoint and maintain. More often than not we gravitate toward an extreme on either end of balance.
With anger, most will fall into one of the extremes: either one has no spine or is prone to losing control.
An example of balance can be found in Ephesians 4.26. It begins with a passive imperative: “be angry.” There is a time and place for this unpleasant emotion – any damage to the bride of Christ warrants this response, for example.
There are three imperatives to balance out our use of anger:
Do not sin.
Do not let the sun go down on your anger.
Do not give the devil an opportunity.
Anger is sometimes necessary, but it must be short-lived.
Unchecked anger gives Satan space in our hearts. The word translated “opportunity” is τόπος (topos), which is a place to live, an inhabited structure, or a favorable circumstance for doing something (BDAG 1011). If we allow our anger to get out of control, we’ve created favorable circumstances for Satan to influence us.
Since balance is what we’re looking for, we have to get angry to create positive change, but we have to temper (aha) that anger with restraint if we don’t want Satan to have a chance to influence the church through us.
In Shakespeare’s Hamlet, Polonius counsels his daughter, Ophelia, about Hamlet’s vows of love, saying, “When the blood burns, how prodigal the soul lends the tongue vows. These blazes, daughter, giving more light than heat, extinct in both even in their promise as it is a-making, you must not take for fire” (Act 1, Scene 3). Her point is that passionate desire causes a man to profusely promise anything in order to get what he wants, but it may lack substance and trustworthiness. It appears more promising than it really is. We’ve likely all witnessed and experienced this. What good is a fire if it doesn’t produce heat?
When it comes to discussing religious matters, things can get pretty heated. Unfortunately, as the temperature rises, solid conclusions are elusive because there is much more emotion than illumination. Inasmuch as God’s Word is to be a light and lamp (Ps. 119:105), these are times where all are benefited by more light than heat. Too often, instead of proving or disproving something, we resort to personal attacks on the other person, assert a position appealing to a variety of alleged proofs or rationales without benefit of a singular Scripture, or we’ll abuse, distort, and contort a passage to say what it does not mean. As battle lines are drawn and trenches are dug, the two sides become wider and more intensely apart while the matter under discussion fades into the background.
Because the New Testament repeatedly commands unity (Eph. 4:1ff; 1 Cor. 1:10-13), we must “pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another” (Rom. 14:19). Are there tangible actions we can take to pursue more light than heat in these matters that distress our unity?
Genuinely listen. That doesn’t mean merely hear what the other is saying, but listen open-mindedly, seeking to understand what the other person is saying. Don’t presuppose or listen with prejudice. Truly, “He who gives an answer before he hears, It is folly and shame to him” (Prov. 18:13).
Genuinely love. Love for God should be preeminent, but such love is not in opposition to brotherly love. In fact, they are intrinsically bound together (1 Jn. 4:20-21). While love does not mean compromising truth, it will prompt us to do what love requires (cf. 1 Cor. 13:4-8)—be patient, be kind, act becomingly, don’t be provoked, etc.
Genuinely learn. Do we really know their view or merely think we do? This requires great self-examination and disciplined introspection. If we champion a position and have argued the matter before, we may think our fellow disputant believes what he or she does not actually believe. Preconceptions eclipse thoughtful interaction. We should ever be students, making sure we’ve not missed it.
Genuinely long. Peace and unity will sometimes be impossible, but we shouldn’t let that be because we didn’t sincerely seek it. By lovingly seeing the other person as an eternal soul for whom Christ died (as well as any and all who would be influenced by the other person), surely we will strive to gently, civilly, and earnestly discuss the matter (cf. 2 Tim. 2:24-26).
We live in divisive times. They are carnal times, full of “bitterness and wrath and clamor and slander…with all malice” (Eph. 4:31). We must remember that the “anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God” (Jas. 1:20). What does? God’s Word (Jas. 1:18-25)! Too often, we’ll be locked in matters of truth and error and must uphold truth. But let’s be so careful to discern when that’s the case and always speak the truth in love (Eph. 4:15). Such will produce light rather than heat!
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