Brooklin Yazzle, a Mesa, Arizona, wife and mother, apparently handed out her wedding ring with the Halloween candy last week. She had taken off her ring and put it in a candy jar to help her children carve pumpkins. Later, things got hectic and she absentmindedly dumped her ring along with the candy into a candy bag to give to children. Complicating things, among her treats were plastic rings. She has made an appeal through the news to get it back, stating that while it isn’t worth much monetarily it has great sentimental value (FOX News).
Many of us can relate to such a mindless blunder. To my everlasting chagrin, I lost my wife’s High School class ring back while we were dating (she married me anyway!). It is not uncommon for a person to remove their wedding ring to work or play, but removing it in such cases is to protect it from harm or loss.
The American Community Survey and the Daily Beast collaborated to provide a list of the “Divorce Capitals of the U.S.” The ignominious top ten list, from “top” to bottom, is: (1) Panama City, FL, (2) Sierra Vista, AZ, (3) Charleston, WV, (4) Medford, OR, (5) Reno, NV, (6) Deltona, FL, (7) Pueblo, CO, (8) Palm Bay, FL, (9) Jacksonville, FL, and (10) Grand Junction, CO. In six states, the divorce rate is between 12.64-14.35% per 1,000 people, age 15 and older (Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Kentucky, Maine, and Oklahoma). Yet, the best of states still average 6.05-7.65% (Ashley Reich, The Huffington Post, 11/4/13).
This survey is but an example of a trend that is only tempered by a falling marriage rate, as more and more couples are living together without the sanctity of marriage. It shows that the dissolution of marriage is not confined to one area of the country, or more like in a “Red” or “Blue” state. Are there steps we can take to keep our wedding rings?
- Spend time together.
- Have shared interests.
- Focus on pleasing your spouse more than being pleased by him/her.
- Make marriage a priority, not an afterthought or a “no thought.”
- Make spiritual investments together (devotions, prayer, serving, etc.).
- Spend time with couples whose marriages are healthy and happy.
- Practice hospitality together.
- Keep romance alive.
- Keep Christ King of your home.
- Avoid pettiness.
This list is not exhaustive, but it already gives all of us areas to work on and improve in. We should remember God’s feelings, who said, “I hate divorce” (Mal. 2:16). Let’s hold on to our wedding rings!