“As We Go Our Separate Ways…”

“As We Go Our Separate Ways…”

Neal Pollard

I’ve heard this prayed my whole life: “Be with us as we go our separate ways.”  I fully appreciate what is meant, but I lament a trend I’ve seen for many years.  Too often, we go our separate ways until the “next appointed time.”  We have no contact with one another. Instead, the bulk or totality of our contact is with worldly people with ungodly philosophies.  While we need to be among the world to exert salt and light, perhaps we have neglected something else that first century Christians took full advantage of.  Luke describes it this way, saying, “Day by day continuing with one mind in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, they were taking their meals together with gladness and sincerity of heart” (Acts 2:46).  As he had observed in verse 42, they were continually devoting themselves to fellowship.  This created a close knit community that could not only weather some huge storms of opposition, but it helped them produce an attractive environment that thousands of people wanted to be a part of. Perhaps we discount or even overlook what a vital part of church growth that fellowship and time together had on the early church.

Today, we have our civic activities, our kids’ full slate of responsibilities, our work and overtime, our personal entertainment regimen, and similar time-consuming matters that are not inherently wrong but that can help create a dramatic separation from our spiritual family during the week.  Where is the time allotment for getting together with other Christians during the week?  Have we relegated or resigned ourselves to Sunday morning, Sunday night, and Wednesday night?  Are we losing the art of hospitality, of having spiritual family over to deepen Christian relationships?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to speak of each other and say that our hearts have “been knit together in love” (Col. 2:2)?  In that same context of the church’s beginning mentioned earlier, Luke adds, “All those who had believed were together and had all things in common” (2:44).  What will happen to the local church that becomes very intentional about this, not just with an exclusive few but in a way that includes new Christians, potential Christians, the otherwise disconnected, and those of different as well as similar demographics? Certainly, it requires time, effort, and even some expense, but what will it yield?  A feeling of connection in the place of separation.

8 thoughts on ““As We Go Our Separate Ways…”

  1. Love the article. Never thought about it this way. We so DO go our separate ways and our Brothers and Sisters never cross our minds again until we return to church the next time. Indeed it would be so wonderful if we all were as close knit as the first century Christians were. Imagine how our light would shine so bright that the crowds couldn’t wait to come and be part of it. Thanks for another great article.

  2. Here’s my question as a young evangelist, how would you make that happen? I’ve known for a very long time that is what we need but in an environment where we are losing even some of the “appointed” because a lack of participation, how do we get this day by day mentality going?

    1. David, thank you for the question. I would begin by saying that patience is a must. This will not happen immediately. Emphasizing it (without making it a hobby horse) in preaching, teaching, personal conversations, etc., is part of the process. It also is an outgrowth of helping a church to see the need of evangelism and part of that process, too. I appreciate your heart and desire, brother.

  3. This is a great article. But I feel as though I might be on the opposite end of the pendulum so often…I am always trying to hang out with my Godly brothers and sisters, and with the amount of time I invest in them, I find it difficult to invest time in brothers and sisters who I do not yet know, and even those within the world who need Christ. What is a pragmatic approach to balancing the time required for personal growth, the needs of a family, the fellowship with established friends in Christ, fellowship with unknown brothers and sisters, and finally being salt to the world? So many priorities, so little time. 🙂
    Thank you.

    1. Amen! The deacons, elders, and preachers at Bear Valley are trying to coordinate and organize our efforts to be much more involved in outreach and soul-winning. Balance is so often the key!

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