Tag: self-image

A Dangerous Lie We All Believe

Neal Pollard

We tell it in different ways. It may be, “Nobody is as bad, broken, or beaten as I am.” Or, “nobody understands what it’s like.” Or, “if anyone knew the ‘real’ me, they wouldn’t want anything to do with me.” Really, there are an infinite combination of ways we say it, but all of them boil down to some equivalent of “I am beyond the reach of God’s acceptance.”

Why is this lie so dangerous? It actually keeps us away from Him and His blessings. Our belief in our unworthiness is so deep that we keep ourselves from trying to get close to Him. Our guilt drives us to darkness, isolation, and despair. In this state, we actually feed sinfulness and encase ourselves in lethal isolation. We cannot be at our best in relationships with others and we put greater focus on self, leading to further misery and emptiness.

Perhaps the common and caustic nature of this lie is why the Bible stresses the transforming and truthful rebuttal to this devilish deception. How does the Bible respond to the idea that I am not good enough for God’s love? Consider these biblical answers.

  • God’s love is unconditional. “For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For one will hardly die for a righteous man; though perhaps for the good man someone would dare even to die. 8 But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:6-8).
  • God IS love. “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love” (1 John 4:8).
  • God’s love is unconquerable and indomitable by any force or power. “Neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39).
    • God wants us to overcome. “This is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (1 Timothy 2:3-4).
    • God doesn’t want anyone lost. “The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9).
    • God’s forgiveness is faithfully and fully applied. “But if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:7-9).
    • God’s love is universal and proven. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life” (John 3:16).

Who is it that wants us to shun these beautiful truths? What do we gain by ignoring and rejecting them? What do we lose? None of us is perfect (Roman 3:10,23; 5:12). All of us struggle, with temptation (James 1:13-15; 1 Corinthians 10:13), with worldliness (1 John 2:15-17), with fear, and with weakness (Psalm 103:14). God has given us the resources we need to combat this terrible lie. We must see our intrinsic value in His eyes, fueled by His nature and proven by His actions. When we reject the lie, we choose the path of purpose and productivity. We can become what He intended for us to be and desires us to be. Our problems and struggles won’t disappear, but our resources to address them will become inexhaustible. Reject the lie!

Don’t Be So Insecure!

Do you ever wrestle with insecurity? What can be done about it? Does the Bible offer practical help to overcome it?

Neal Pollard

Did it cause the Pharisees to “do all their deeds to be noticed by men” (Mat. 23:5)? It may have tempted Jeremiah to be afraid of the faces of those who he had to confront (Jer. 1:8, KJV). It certainly led Peter, Barnabas, and the rest of the Jews in Antioch to stop eating with the Gentiles, “afraid of criticism” (Gal. 2:12-13, NLT). The word “insecure” is not in the Bible, but the idea is there. 

Today, we are not immune to feelings of insecurity. While the cause may be physical appearance, financial status, social status, or the like, the effect very often is a temptation to compromise regarding what is right, conform to worldly behaviors, and cross biblical lines to have the acceptance of people. Do you remember how “many even of the rulers believed in [Jesus], but because of the Pharisees they were not confessing Him, for fear that they would be put out of the synagogue; for they loved the approval of men rather than the approval of God” (John 12:42-43)? Jesus warned against a mindset that sought to “receive glory from one another” instead of the glory that comes from God (John 5:44). 

No one likes to be on the outside looking in. We do not want others to look down on us. The feelings of vulnerability are those which everyone knows at least from time to time. How do we fight insecurity? Consider a few biblical tips:

  • Never forget that you are an image bearer of God (Gen. 1:27).
  • Remember how highly God thinks of you (Job 7:17; Psa. 8:4).
  • Put your focus on serving others and thinking of them (Phil. 2:3; Mark 10:45).
  • Make sure that you are not exclusive or snubbing with others (Rom. 15:7). 
  • Get your satisfaction and sense of identity most from your relationship with God (2 Cor. 6:18; Rev. 5:10). 
  • Do not let the world define or be the measuring stick of success (1 John 2:15-17). 
  • Understand how fleeting and fickle the praise and acceptance of man is (Heb. 11:25-26). 
  • Remember that often the approval of man comes at the expense of God’s approval (Rom. 1:32; 2 Tim. 4:10). 

For our part, we should do what we can to make others feel appreciated, valued, and loved. Such an outward focus goes a long way to a sense of fulfillment and security. But, much of our insecurity will wane and fade the more we will concentrate on self-forgetfulness and sincere service!