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An Excellent Wife

Neal Pollard

The book of Proverbs ends, in chapter 31, with an investigation. The writer, whether Lemuel is making observations or passing along his mother’s sage guidance, leads the search. He writes how rare and valuable an excellent wife is (10). It is a literary masterpiece, an acrostic poem (each verse begins with a successive letter of the Hebrew alphabet) and a chiasm (“a rhetorical or literary figure in which words, grammatical constructions, or concepts are repeated in reverse order, in the same or modified form,” Apple Dictionary, 2.3.0). You would diagram the outline of the chiasm like this: A B C B A. The chiasm was a literary way to show the heart or focus of a specific section of Scripture. It would be readily identified by a Jewish reader, but it enriches our study when we understand that it’s intentionally there. The heart of this poem is verse 23: “Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land.” The net effect of the kind of wife described here is that it blesses her spouse’s life. That should be the goal of every married person, to raise others’ view of him or her through the righteous conduct of our life. What is the character of the wife described here?

  • She is prized and praiseworthy (10, 30-31).
  • Her husband and home are profited by and praise her (11-12, 28-29).
  • She is a hard worker (13-19, 27). 
  • She is generous with her material things and her wisdom (20, 26).
  • She is not ruled by worries and fears (21,25).
  • She dresses her children and house well and she dresses her character well (21-22, 24-25).

Some have used this poem to try and hold up a “Renaissance Woman,” an ideal so unrealistic that no woman could ever live up to her standard. These have had too narrow a view of the author’s purpose. He is trying to demonstrate the kind of approach that a wife, in this context, should take to her role and responsibility. She is careful about how she approaches the various duties of the home, which she rules and oversees. She adopts a wise, God-approved character. This leads her to bless all who are in various relationships with her. Husbands do well to approach their duties, character-development, and relationships in the same way. Society will be benefited from its members taking who they are and what they do more seriously. So will the church and the home. 

What a blessing to be married to an excellent wife! There is no substitute for this. How it makes the inevitable burdens of life easier to carry. Let us all strive to be excellent in the role(s) God has given to us! 

“This Book Is Valuable”

Neal Pollard

Not long ago, visiting two of our wonderful members, Dorothy and Buster French, we talked about everything from politics to family to farming and their memories growing up. Somehow, talk shifted to their memories from youth growing up during World War II. Times were difficult and Americans had to make sacrifices, doing without. This sweet couple had tangible proof of that sacrifice in a ration card they had kept from Buster’s father. 

Families and households had to limit their purchase of common goods, like gasoline, butter, sugar, and canned milk (https://www.nps.gov/articles/rationing-in-wwii.htm). This allowed the government to divert needed supplies and manufacturing to goods and supplies needed to prosecute the war overseas. What I found most interesting of all was the explanation on the back of the ration book. It included the following statements:

  • “This book is valuable. Do not lose it.”
  • “Detailed instructions concerning the use of this book…will be issued from time to time.”
  • “Do not throw this book away…”
  • “You may be required to present this book…”

The last paragraph was an admonition for the bearer to do his or her part. A failure to follow the rules, they said, “helps the enemy.” The book carried the weight and authority of the Government Printing Office and was dated 1942.

It’s so hard for us, even in the volatile economics conditions of the past few years–including a disruption in the supply chain–to fathom what ordinary families endured for a half a decade or more. But the exhortations on the back of that book can be timelessly applied to the most important book of all.

Whether or not we have a favorite, well-worn copy of it, but the Bible is most valuable and its message and content cannot be lost as a lamp to our feet and light to our way (Ps. 119:105). God designed for us to have detailed instruction, “from time to time,” given concerning its use. He calls it preaching (Acts 2:42; 20:7; 1 Cor. 1:21). Figuratively speaking, morally, ethically, and doctrinally, we must never throw this book away (Ps. 50:17). Peter reminds us that we may be required to present this book to anyone who asks (1 Pet. 3:15)!

I could not help but think, God’s written word must be the most valuable resource in our lives. It supplies everlasting food and gives us access to more than consumable goods. It is to treasured above our “necessary food” (Job 23:12). 

So many in the Buster and Dorothy’s generation (and their parents’) have contributed much good and the prosperity so many of us enjoy today. Things like their honest participation on the Homefront through means like rationing are example of why. We can bless our world today by being Christians who treasure the Book of books and put it to use in our lives! 

Godliness With Contentment Is Great Gain

Brent Pollard

Barry Schwartz, a professor of psychology at Swarthmore College, authored a book called “The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less.” In an article adapted from his book, published in Parade magazine about twenty years ago, Schwartz surprisingly states that “our unprecedented material abundance” causes unhappiness. How does this happen? Think about your last visit to a large retailer. You likely encountered over 360 types of shampoo, conditioner, and mousse in the hair care aisle. With such an overwhelming number of choices, deciding which one to buy can be difficult. Most people want the best product at an affordable price, but with so many options, it can be challenging to determine which of the 360 products is the best choice.

According to Schwartz (2004), many believe we should never settle for anything less than the best. He calls these individuals “maximizers.” Essentially, maximizers are always dissatisfied with what they have. For example, while driving and listening to the radio, a maximizer will often switch between stations, even if they already enjoy what they are listening to. Have you ever found yourself behaving this way?

As Schwartz concludes, “Unattainable expectations, plus a tendency to blame ourselves for our failure, make a lethal combination” (2004, p. 5). We need to constantly remind ourselves of the principle Paul first shared with his “son in the faith,” Timothy:

But godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment. For we have brought nothing into the world, so we cannot take anything out of it either. If we have food and covering, with these we shall be content. (1 Timothy 6.6-8 NASB)

Yes, we must learn to be content with what God promised to provide if we “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” (Matthew 6.33).

Schwartz provides advice to help us find contentment. Here are the tips.

“Choose when to choose” (Schwartz, 2004, p. 5) suggests intentionally limiting our choices when something is unimportant. For instance, when purchasing a specific item, it’s better to stick to one store and choose from only one or two restaurants. This way, we can avoid unnecessary decision-making and save time and energy.

According to Schwartz (2004), learning to accept things that are “good enough” is important. Striving for perfection can often lead to unnecessary anxiety and stress. Instead, settling for something to get the job done and move on is better. The pursuit of perfection is often a futile task and can prevent us from achieving our goals.

The third thing to remember is not to worry about missed opportunities or options. Instead of dwelling on the “what ifs,” learn to be happy with your choices. There is no point in agonizing over the paths you did not take. As Barry Schwartz put it in his book, “The Paradox of Choice,” “Learn to be content with the choices you’ve made.” (p.5)

According to Schwartz (2004), it’s essential to control your expectations and not expect too much. Your expectations often shape your perception of what is right or wrong. If you want to be more satisfied with life, it’s advisable to avoid expecting too much, as it is a common saying: “Don’t expect too much, and you won’t be disappointed.”

These are not behaviors that we can develop overnight. We must follow the example of the apostle Paul and learn to be content (see Philippians 4.11). Let us carefully look at our lives, recognize our many blessings, avoid causing ourselves disappointment, and thank God for all He has done for us.

Work Cited:

Schwartz, B. (2004, January 4). When It’s All Too Much. Parade, pp. 4-5.

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