Scripture shapes our understanding of the Father. Yet, we often fall into the habit of crafting our own version of God in our minds. Someone once said, “You can safely assume that you’ve created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people as you do.” We tend to justify our shortcomings or find excuses to dismiss our poor choices. This inclination is all too natural.
Take our son Rich, for example. Whenever he gets caught doing something he shouldn’t, he blames the dog. One time, I walked into the kitchen to find him covered in Nutella, his hand buried deep in the jar. His first instinct? To convince me that the dog was responsible, not him. This behavior is a common human tendency—to rationalize our actions.
To be human is to have enemies. Chances are, you know someone you struggle to love, or you know someone who doesn’t love you. Jesus assumes we will encounter enemies when He instructs us to “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matt. 5:44). The real question isn’t whether we will have enemies; it’s whether we will love and forgive, even at a great cost.
In 1 Samuel 24, we meet two very different men: Saul, the jealous and paranoid king, and David, the humble and courageous king. The lesson here is encapsulated in what David says in verse 12: “Let the Lord judge.” This highlights the power of a clean conscience.
As we explore this chapter, pay attention to David’s demeanor. While Saul hunts him like a dog, David is forced to hide in a cave, running for his life. When given a chance that most would seize, he chooses restraint. Why? This scripture offers profound insight into how God’s people should respond to opposition.
First, we learn from David to not take revenge (verses 4-7). Of all the places Saul could have gone to relieve himself, he chose the very spot where David and his men were hiding. Had it been anyone else, Saul would have met his end there. David’s men urged him in verse 4, “This is the day the Lord told you about when He said, ‘I will give your enemy into your hand, and you can do whatever you want to him.’” While David had every right to harm Saul—after all, he was the rightful king of Israel—he chose not to.
This sort of self-control seems rare today. When given the chance to retaliate against our enemies, we often leap at it, especially when we feel justified. The principle of “an eye for an eye” is far easier than forgiveness and self-restraint. David was tempted; he crept closer and even cut off a corner of Saul’s robe. Yet, as we see in verse 5, he felt remorse. A clean conscience mattered to David—he couldn’t harm the Lord’s anointed.
Despite Saul’s many attempts to kill him, David recognizes that it’s not about personal grievances. We often fixate on the pain others cause us and forget an essential truth: they, too, are chosen by God, created in His image. If they are Christians, they are redeemed by Christ; if not, they desperately need the Gospel. If we could look past our hurt, we would see their need for love and forgiveness.
Like David, we must be cautious of those who urge us to act on our natural instincts for revenge. Even well-intentioned friends may encourage us to justify bad behavior. If anyone tries to twist God’s command to love and forgive, be careful. God will never lead you to take revenge.
Second, we learn from David to make the first move (verses 8-15). David runs after Saul to clarify and resolve their conflict, risking much in the process. Communication is key in reconciliation. We often wait for the other person to reach out, especially if we believe they are in the wrong. We might think, “I won’t forgive until they ask for it.” However, being a Christian means embracing the unnatural. God equips us with the strength and courage to approach our enemies first.
David confronts Saul’s worries in verse 9, asking, “Why do you listen to the words of men who say, ‘Behold, David seeks your harm?’” Conflicts often arise from misunderstandings or misinformation. David clarifies his intentions in verse 13, stating, “But my hand shall not be against you.” The longer a conflict festers, the more distorted our views become. We must strive to clarify our motives as we seek reconciliation.
Who are you avoiding that you should pursue? Are you waiting for them to make the first move? Instead, take the initiative to clarify the situation and gently confront any misconceptions.
Finally, we learn from David to commit to doing good (verses 16-22). David and Saul reach an agreement, though Saul’s promise doesn’t last long; he soon returns to hunt David with 3,000 men. Yet, David remains committed to doing good for Saul and his household for as long as he is king. This commitment is evident in how David responds to Saul’s death (2 Sam. 1:17–27) and in the story of Mephibosheth (2 Sam. 9).
True reconciliation is marked by ongoing love and kindness. Conflict gives us an opportunity to grow closer, deepen our understanding of ourselves and others, and glorify God. If a genuine commitment to do good isn’t reached, then reconciliation hasn’t truly occurred. C.S. Lewis once noted, “Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.”
Many of us cherish the idea of reconciliation, but when it comes time to act, we find it challenging.
Despite living in a cave and constantly on the run, David slept peacefully, knowing it wasn’t about him. His mindset was clear: “Let the Lord be my Judge.” God sees your behavior and stands by you. Let Him be your Judge and maintain a clean conscience.
David exemplifies this mindset in action. He resisted harming Saul, took the initiative, and sought the good of his enemy. We have much to learn from him.
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