Neal Pollard

One of the feature stories in today’s USA Today is a glowing feature about a homosexual couple getting married in Maryland, one of the states to legalize homosexual marriage in the last election.  The article is also about changing attitudes in our nation.  Chuck Raash, the author, states in the course of writing that 53% of Americans surveyed say they think that same-sex married couples should enjoy the same rights as heterosexual couples.  Perhaps the statistic I found more interesting was that 36% of people surveyed have changed their mind about this issue during their lifetime.  While those numbers are not further analyzed, the tone of the article would suggest that most, if not all, have changed from opposing to accepting it.  One of the grooms summed up the “three stages” homosexuals often face when they reveal their preference to the people in their lives–“tolerance, acceptance, embrace” (USA Today, 1/9/13, A-1).  I do not doubt any of the statistics in the article, nor do I disagree with the fact of such gradual change in thinking in people’s minds toward matters like homosexuality.

Yet, I would disagree with this man and those who support his lifestyle that such change is positive.  Sin is very often met with such a gradual, changing attitude.  The 18th Century English poet, Alexander Pope, is actually the originator of the thought from the afore-quoted groom.  In “Essay on Man,” Pope said, “Vice is a monster of so frightful mien, as to be hated needs but to be seen. Yet too oft, familiar with her face, we first endure, then pity, then embrace.”  The idea, especially in context of the whole, is that people’s attitude toward sin soften through the attrition of exposure.  That is, the more we are exposed to sin, the more comfortable and desensitized to it we become.  When a sin is increasingly portrayed as positive and right and people stop speaking against it, that society inevitably moves from disapproval to embrace.

Isaiah speaks of people getting things spiritually backward, calling evil “good” and good “evil” (5:20).  Consciences get seared (1 Tim. 4:2). They become callous, having “given themselves over to sensuality for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness” (Eph. 4:19).  Someone may deny God’s existence or that the Bible is His inspired Word, but those who claim faith in both cannot consistently do so but tolerate, accept, or embrace what He says therein is sin!


  1. Superb writing! This is how many a sinful practice becomes accepted in society and is what the LBGT people have been aiming at for years: “endure, then pity, then embrace.”

  2. Thanks, for your comments they are so good, especially right now because if you’ve never have had to be confronted with this issue on your our home front then it’s a totally different story. I have been having to deal with this issue for quite sum time. My son (as well as all my kids) were brought in the church and according to the scriptures but my son informed me a few years back that he was in a relationship with another man. Needless to say it broke my heart and I took him aside and tried to get him to understand that this lifestyle was wrong especially in the sight of God but to no a vale so he continued with his lifestyle choice. I tried not to beat him over the head with the issue hoping to keep open the door of communication but also letting him know that I stood firm in my belief in God’s word. But just recently he over saw soon comments I made and became infuriated about them and he told me point blank that he didn’t want anything else to do with me and that he had enough positive re-enforcement that he didn’t need me or my religion to try to tear him down. I regret that he feels that way because I was always hoping he would see the error of his way because I cannot nor will not stand on anything else except God’s word. All I can do now is pray for him and hope that he will change the error of his way before it’s too late. I know I’m not the only that is confronted with this problem but sometimes you can’t help but feel alone in trying to fight the good fight whether it’s this problem or any other worldly problem we have to stand firm on the word of God for He is the only true and just one that we can depend and rely on. So please add me to your pray list for I know what the power of prayer can do and I thank God every day for all He has done for me and I will continue to pray for my son, I unconditionally love him but not the lifestyle of sin that he has chosen.

    1. Wow, thank you for your candid, heartfelt words! I am so sorry to hear of the pain for you in this situation. We must remember on every sin-struggle that God LOVES the sinner and wants him or her back every time. As long as there is time, there is hope. Thank you for your courageous response!

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