Tag: tone

Do You Understand?

Carl Pollard 

Sometimes we struggle to truly understand what we hear. It’s so easy to misinterpret conversations, especially over text. According to psychologist Albert Merabian, approximately 93% of communication is considered nonverbal, with 55% conveyed through body language and 38% through tone of voice. This means that only 7% of the message is conveyed through the actual spoken words.

Have you ever misunderstood a text message? Without the benefit of tone and body language, it can be challenging to discern whether a response is conveying sarcasm, boredom, or excitement. Even simple phrases like “oh wow” can be interpreted in vastly different ways.

Communication is hard, especially when we have a million different ways to say a word that can convey an entirely different message. We aren’t the first ones to struggle with this. The apostles asked Jesus around 200 questions that are recorded for us, often saying “huh?” when He spoke. Yet, Jesus asked over 300 questions – not because He was ignorant or unaware, but to get people thinking and truly understand.

Similarly, we sometimes treat Scripture like Einstein’s theory of relativity – we can memorize the words, but if we don’t understand them, what’s the point? Scripture is more than just words on a page; it’s the word of life. To commit it to heart and truly understand requires more than a superficial reading.

To be a follower of Jesus, faith in Christ is essential. 1 John 5:5 says, “Who is it that overcomes the world except the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?” It’s not the rich, the president, or the preacher – it’s the one who believes in Jesus as Lord. John 3:16 reminds us that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.

Faith in Christ isn’t found on a day when everything in life is perfect. Trust is built by enduring difficulty. As George Muller said, “Faith doesn’t operate in the realm of the possible. There is no glory for God in that which is humanly possible. Faith begins where man’s power ends.”

To be a follower of Christ means living a life of faith in Jesus. It’s not about gambling or taking a chance, but putting our trust in the sinless Savior of the world, who has been in the saving business forever. When we truly understand what it means to be a Christian, we will live like Christ.

Positive Encouragement

Gary Pollard

In Phil 1.6, Paul says “I am sure that the good work God began in you will continue until he completes it on the day when Jesus Christ comes again.” If this sounds familiar, it’s because he said something very similar in II Timothy 1.5 — “I remember your true faith. That kind of faith first belonged to your grandmother Lois and to your mother Eunice. I know you now have that same faith.” 

The confidence motif is repeated in both passages. It’s something Paul seems to say to give the person he’s correcting the benefit of the doubt. He also starts off his correction in both letters by saying something genuine and positive about their character. 

When we have to correct another member, we should never start with an accusatory tone. We should highlight the positive aspects of a person’s value and character and practically smother them with encouragement first. When Paul handles this uncomfortable situation he doesn’t say, “I’m sure you’re doing a great work, but…” He doesn’t tell Timothy, “I’m sure you still have faith, but…” The hug-followed-by-a-slap-to-the-face method does not and has not ever been effective. 

Instead, Paul encourages them by saying, “These are your positive attributes,” and then shifts his focus to positive examples of other people. It really is a masterful approach, but that makes perfect sense. God formatted both letters, so of course it was excellent. This also shows us that if we want to know how we’re supposed to do something difficult, we should look for a biblical example first. Chances are, God’s already given us a blueprint. 

We’re not told exactly what Euodia and Syntyche were fighting about, but there are some hints. The selflessness theme suggests a struggle with self-centered living. Love that hasn’t fully matured seems to evident from verse 9. Focusing on unimportant issues is also suggested in Paul’s prayer. Whatever it was, the root of their issue was a lack of selflessness. 

Down in verse 25, Paul talks about his struggle — he wants to leave this life and be with Jesus, but he knows the church at Philippi still needs him. He wanted to help them grow and find purpose through faith — evidently something that wasn’t already in place.