The submission topic continues into I Peter 3. This time, it’s a message to husbands and wives. 3.1-6 addresses the wives, but husbands are far from off-the-hook, and their message comes with a bit of a threat (7). God expects Christian wives to yield leadership to their husbands. This is a difficult one for us to swallow, too. It’s certainly countercultural, but it’s what God wants.
This passage highlights the ideal qualities of a Christian wife — her submission and focus on morally pure living could very well win over a husband who doesn’t believe in God or has fallen away (3.1-2). The ideal Christian wife doesn’t express her beauty with physical or worldly ideals. She finds her beauty and value in a gentle, peaceful, morally pure spirit, because that’s extremely valuable to God (4). Verses 5-6 give historical role models to emulate.
But husbands have a huge responsibility as well (7). God expects a husband to live with his wife in a common-sense way. The phrase often translated “with understanding” is κατα γνωσιν — “according to knowledge”. Husbands know (or should know) what their wives like and dislike, and should try to act accordingly. Husbands also have to remember the differences between men and women. He isn’t going to treat his wife the same way he treats his bros. That usually doesn’t go over well and God doesn’t allow it.
Husbands have to remember that wives are every bit as equal in value in God’s eyes (7). They’re just as entitled to God’s grace. If a husband fails to live up to these expectations, God will actively block his prayers (7). This is a serious verse for us to consider. If husbands don’t live up to God’s standards, he will turn the volume all the way down on their prayers.
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