Tuesday’s Column: Dale Mail
Some people just seem to be born with great people skills. Perhaps their personality type just naturally draws others to them. While natural ability may give some a leg up, the great news is that anyone can learn to work well with others and you can develop better interpersonal skills. In fact, it’s really a biblical command! The church is made up of all kinds of people and that being the case, we must all be in the people business. Thankfully, our Lord doesn’t leave us high and dry to try and figure these things out on our own.
Dispersed throughout the Bible we find several sections of scripture that teach us how to communicate, empathize, and get along with others effectively. God’s interpersonal skills cannot be matched. As the Creator, He understands exactly how humans think and behave. Here are twelve insights on interpersonal skills sent to us from above.
- Speak evil of no one (I Thess. 5:14)
- A soft answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger (Proverbs 15:1)
- The wise of heart is called perceptive, and pleasant speech increases persuasiveness (Proverbs 16:21)
- Be gentle and show courtesy to all people (Titus 3:2)
- Do good to everyone (Gal. 6:10)
- Bear one another’s burdens (Gal. 6:2)
- As you wish that others would do to you, do so to them (Luke 6:31)
- Discern your own thoughts, identify your intentions (Heb. 4:12)
- Treat others like you would treat Jesus. How would you interact with Him? (Matthew 25:40)
- Season your speech with grace. It’s the saviors All-Spice for every relationship building goal (Col. 4:5-6)
- Praise God and be joyful, it attracts people (Psalm 100:1-5)
- Be ready for every good work, speak evil of no one, avoid quarreling, be gentle, show courtesy to all people (Titus 3:1-15)
Notice how many passages in the Bible command us to speak differently than everyone else? All of these insights can be simply summed up in just one sentence. Talk, walk, and live more like Jesus. He was perfect in every way and that includes how he interacted with others. Modeling ourselves after the Savior will not only improve our relationship skills with others, but also with Him. Jesus also teaches us that no matter how gentle and loving we are, we’ll still make some people upset. That’s alright! As long as we’re acting like the Lord in all things.